tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post1198230292875211144..comments2023-09-29T01:01:15.423-07:00Comments on Traveling Through Time and Space: It Happens Every Seven YearsFantastic Forresthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08044290192610027408noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-45087490708878005822009-05-04T08:45:00.000-07:002009-05-04T08:45:00.000-07:00Susan - sorry to bring up bad memories with the vi...Susan - sorry to bring up bad memories with the video. That must have been hideous for you. How bizarre that they chose your bed. How fortunate that you discovered this before the relationship lasted another minute.<br /><br />Dave - there certainly is a lot of bitterness out there. I've known some folks who have maintained civil relations with their exes, but in the majority of breakups, it seems at least one of the parties is very angry. Maybe I put too much in this post. I was hoping for some thoughts on the every seven years thing. Perhaps I'll revisit that some time.Fantastic Forresthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044290192610027408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-8603908656697588712009-05-04T03:58:00.000-07:002009-05-04T03:58:00.000-07:00Does a good marriage that goes bad become a total ...Does a good marriage that goes bad become a total disaster? You'd think so, listening to some who have experienced it.Dave Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08430484174826768488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-4778041335684641432009-05-03T20:33:00.000-07:002009-05-03T20:33:00.000-07:00There are definitely women who abuse husbands but ...There are definitely women who abuse husbands but I imagine they're far outnumbered by the old-fashioned kind and probably brought up in families that practiced domestic violence. I was born in England and remember my parents telling me about families where the mother had died and the eldest daughter would take on the full role of the new mother. It wasn't uncommon just a few generations ago and probably happened in this country too.<br /><br />It is an interesting subject but I don't think I'm ready to take it on as a separate blog either. So far as raising our children is concerned I think the best thing is to give them good examples, foster honest communication, offer birth control to the girls and keep your fingers crossed they finish college before considering marriage. Marriages are always stronger between equal partners but nothing is guaranteed and at least if a woman finds herself as a single mother she'll have the ability to support her family. I've seen it happen too many times that girls start longing for babies and a man in concert with their hormones but before they have a clue.<br /><br />Oh yes, I did watch the video and found the images somewhat disturbing but valid. Before my second (and successful) marriage I once arrived home from a trip earlier than expected and found a boyfriend (who had his own place) in my bed with one of my friends (who had her own apartment). I threw them both out but didn't eat the furniture although I may have felt like it :-)susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16747450215034568033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-66302006992849773242009-05-03T12:14:00.000-07:002009-05-03T12:14:00.000-07:00susan - you're right. I, happily, haven't experie...susan - you're right. I, happily, haven't experienced those types of stresses, and neither did the previous immediate generation in our families. But there's no doubt that there are many marriages even today that are based on those philosophies. It's a subject for another post; perhaps another whole blog! I'm not the one to write it. I'm sure you'll concede that there are plenty of marriages where the woman abuses her husband in some ways, though, so the women as chattel thing doesn't help to avoid that. How do we help our children identify a good lifelong mate, advise them on how to keep their marriage strong, and realize that sometimes, no matter how careful they've been, it's time to cut bait? Those are the questions I'm chewing on here. (Heh, get it? Did you watch the video?)Fantastic Forresthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044290192610027408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-39672455970343398082009-05-03T10:44:00.000-07:002009-05-03T10:44:00.000-07:00Over the long term marriage in most cultures meant...Over the long term marriage in most cultures meant being a chattel. Unless she entered a convent (willingly or not) a woman could look forward to a life of frequent childbirth and utter servitude. It will take more than one or two generations for equality and respect to undo the history. We must endeavor to re-invent ourselves as the situations prescribe.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16747450215034568033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-11099779084631323442009-05-03T10:14:00.000-07:002009-05-03T10:14:00.000-07:00Emm - well said.
JaPRA - yes, friendship is impor...Emm - well said.<br /><br />JaPRA - yes, friendship is important. It reminds me of a funny line from <I>What's Up Doc</I> which I'd share with you if I could remember it. Must have more coffee first.<br /><br />themom - I'm glad you came over. Don't let the turkeys get you down!<br /><br />dianne - ah, yes, diplomacy. Honesty is all well and good, but we all could benefit from care in how we approach things. Glad you liked the vid!Fantastic Forresthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044290192610027408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-31347067382502201762009-05-03T05:31:00.000-07:002009-05-03T05:31:00.000-07:00As you know I am the last person to give advice ...As you know I am the <I> last </I> person to give advice on relationships...I just keep on hanging in there waiting for some good and some consistency...all a bit one sided, but I hope...<br /><br />However I will say that keeping the lines of communication open and diplomacy always helps.<br /><br />I liked that song, nice beat, that is what I would call a bad case of 'emotional eating'. ♡<br /><br />Ah how happy life would be if love ran smoothly sometimes. ♡diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06171808338793139579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-8243462539239976692009-05-02T12:08:00.000-07:002009-05-02T12:08:00.000-07:00thanks for the invitation to your site. I love th...thanks for the invitation to your site. I love the video also. I never divorced my husband - just to make him squirm I guess. I don't carry around a day to day anger, just when a "former" in-law starts something. Maybe it is intentional to get me. At least on the blog they won't know that it does to a degree. Come back again soon. Thanks for the input.themomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05372778365091908638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-84816482232980943372009-05-01T22:59:00.000-07:002009-05-01T22:59:00.000-07:00Adding "say you're sorry and don't go to bed mad" ...Adding "say you're sorry and don't go to bed mad" ;-)<br /><br />Best to be best friends with your spouse too. Well, it works for us.<br /><br />Interesting food for thought as usual, FF!TBMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05587580447766102705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879347314635530398.post-62831767785510141922009-05-01T06:19:00.000-07:002009-05-01T06:19:00.000-07:00I would say "Don't cheat, always admit when you're...I would say "Don't cheat, always admit when you're wrong and don't believe that divorce is an option". Then I would say that if their partner cheats or abuses them and can't or won't stop or get help, then walk away.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11931248631361366673noreply@blogger.com