Friday, August 20, 2010

Departing Friends


I'm feeling melancholy this evening, as I contemplate the upcoming move of a very good friend. Mama Milton is leaving our town, headed to a place a few hours away. I know that I will miss her very much, and Daring Daughter will miss her wonderful girl. But I've tried hard not to think about it since she broke the news. Like Scarlett O'Hara, I told myself I'd think about it tomorrow.

Very soon, there won't be any more tomorrows. She will be down the road, and I'll no longer be able to just call her up on the spur of the moment to get together.

This sucks.

But she will still be close enough that we can, with a bit of planning, rendezvous someplace between our homes. Or we can travel down a few hours to see her. Still, it is a loss, and I'm mourning.

There's another friend I met through blogging that I won't be able to visit. His name was Barry Fraser. He lived in Canada with his wife, and they had many adventures together. I discovered his wonderful storytelling and commented at his blog, An Explorer's View of Life. Soon, he was reciprocating. I always looked forward to his observations on my posts. We shared a love of nature, a willingness to protect it through environmental activism, and a progressive view of politics. Then he discovered he had cancer. And though he battled it with determination and grace, he passed away on July 20th.

His blog has a wonderful quote that gives me comfort. But I still miss him very much.

“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.”

- T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets

7 comments:

Lisa said...

Oh. That kind of change is rough. Hugs to you, my friend.

yogurt said...

When good friends move away it feels like a death. It's not easy finding sympatico. I hope you and MM will keep your promise to meet between your cities.

lisleman said...

That's the second blogger passing I noticed since yesterday. It is always a sad event.
Death does remind me of living and those living in my world. It does add some importance to getting together with friends.

mommapolitico said...

Sending good thoughts your way. Those moments remind us how precious our friends and family truly are. I've had a similar experience recently, with a dear friend in critical condition. How we must cherish the time we have! Take care, my friend.

Bee said...

Of all the kinds of change, this sort is the worst.

Sending you fondest commiseration, though. xx

Lisa Wheeler Milton said...

You know I love you, Miss Holly. Everyday, here or there.

ox

Miss Healthypants said...

I'm so sorry about your departing friends!!

But thank you for sharing that quote--it's beautiful and comforting.